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Jordyn Green

How to Build Intentional Relationships Across Generations in the Church


Three people huddled closely, heads bowed, in a dimly lit setting. One person rests a hand on another's shoulder, creating a solemn mood.

As we gather together in our churches, we're often surrounded by people from different walks of life, ages, and stages. While this diversity is a beautiful reflection of God's kingdom, it can also create a barrier to building meaningful relationships across generations. In an era where age-segregated ministries and social media bubbles can reinforce our isolation, it's more important than ever to bridge the gap between generations in our churches.


Intentional relationships across generations are crucial for the spiritual growth and vitality of our communities. When we learn from, support, and encourage one another, we become a more unified, mature, and effective body of Christ. So, how can we build these relationships in our current church context?


1. Create Opportunities for Intergenerational Connection


Design ways for people of different ages to come together, whether it's through small groups, service projects, or social events. This could be a discipleship program, a Bible study, or a community outreach project. The key is to create spaces where people can naturally interact and build relationships.


2. Foster a Culture of Respect and Humility


Encourage an atmosphere where people of all ages feel valued, heard, and respected. This means recognizing the unique perspectives, experiences, and strengths that each generation brings to the table.


3. Leverage Technology to Bridge the Gap


While technology can often separate us, it can also be a powerful tool for connection. Use social media, email, or messaging apps to facilitate communication and collaboration between generations.


4. Emphasize Storytelling and Legacy


Encourage older generations to share their stories, wisdom, and experiences with younger generations. This can be done through oral histories, written testimonials, or even video storytelling.


At the same time, empower younger generations to share their own stories, struggles, and triumphs with older generations. This mutual sharing of experiences creates a sense of connection and understanding, as well as a deeper appreciation for the legacy of faith that has been passed down to us.


5. Prioritize Discipleship


Identify opportunities for discipleship across generations. This could be through one-on-one relationships, small groups, or even large-group gatherings.

Throughout the Gospel, Jesus shows how discipleship is key in building the Kingdom, and discipleship is not contained in each generation of the church. Rather, we are to build up the kingdom through multi-generational discipleship and community. 


6. Celebrate the Diversity of Ages


Acknowledge and celebrate the diversity of ages within your church. This can be done through intergenerational worship services, special events, or even simple acknowledgments during Sunday morning gatherings.


As we strive to build intentional relationships across generations, let's remember that it's not about age; it's about Kingdom impact. When we bridge the gap between generations, we become a more effective, unified, and vibrant expression of God's Kingdom on earth.

So, let's take the first step. Let's reach out to someone from a different generation today, whether it's through a phone call, a coffee meeting, or a simple conversation. As we do, we'll discover that the barriers between us are not as great as we thought and that together we can build a church that truly reflects the beauty and diversity of God's kingdom.

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